Dating in derby
Sweaty hugs at the end of the bout are just a bonus.If you’re going to be attending a lot of bouts, it’s going be much more entertaining if you know the rules.Once you’ve watched a few bouts, you’ll get the general hang of it, and before you know it, you’ll be schooling the newbies sitting next you in the stands.And down the road, don’t be surprised if one day you find yourself at WFTDA.com, trying to penetrate the confounding intricacies of the forearm penalty.If she’s not willing to skip a practice or a bout now and then for date night, her priorities might not be in the right place.As long as you’re both honest about expectations and limits, your derby couple-ing should work well. If you already have a hobby that you love, you’re going to be able to dedicate a lot of time to it, because roller derby is going to keep your partner busy.If she plays at a mid or high level of competition, she is going to need to be fit and fast to keep her spot on the team, so she’s going to be motivated to work out. If you’re already a fitness geek, you might be the extra motivation that she needs, or if you’ve been meaning to get back into shape, you’ve now got a built-in gym buddy! Every league is different – some are harmonious love-fests, some are spicy hot pots.
Bouting is only a small fraction of the time she spends on skates – she’s usually at derby practice, putting in her 10,000 hours.If she’s on a typical roller derby schedule, she’ll be practicing about 2x per week (sometimes more) evenings and/or weekends, bouting about once a month during the season plus occasional away games, and working out when she’s not skating.There are also the committee meetings, team meetings, league meetings, fundraisers and after parties. If you’re at home, waiting for her to be free and getting miffed that she’s too busy or tired to hang out every night, you’re going to be miffed a lot.Make sure to clear it with her coach first, then instead of just dropping her off at the rink/school gym/empty warehouse, why not grab a coffee and check out how the derby sausage is made?You won’t exactly be on the edge of your seat at this one, but you’ll get to see what she’s working on with her team, and how hard she’s busting her butt.